It's been another whirlwind couple of months. Once again we've had a hundred things happen, yet nothing has really changed. Back in February we thought Baby P was leaving to go live with a relative. We had his bags packed and everything ready to go when my grandfather passed away. His funeral was the day P was supposed to leave, so I called to ask if he could leave a day early to allow us to attend the funeral and not have to find care for him, only to find out that the relative backed out and they weren't sure if he was leaving. Two days later we found out he is here long term. It was a difficult realization... Not continuing to care for him, but to prepare yourself to say goodbye so finally and then go back to the mindset of him staying. In the middle of that we got a call that Jia's baby brother who was living with a relative was removed and they wanted us to take him. Children's services always aims to keep siblings together, so they really pressured us. We were already overwhelmed with everything happening with P and leaving for the funeral. We said no, however, despite the pressure. I know other people can handle that many young kids (3 years, 1 year, 9 months, 7 months). However we've learned our limits, especially without local support. We don't have a grandma or aunt living down the street who can come watch a kid or two while I take another kid or two to the doctor. It's frustrating that it's more important to keep two half-siblings together who don't know each other than to make sure all of the kids are in homes where they can get the care and attention they need. But that's the system! They've gone as far to threaten removing Jia to move her with her brother, however I'm praying that they're bluffing. All along I've told them that if P leaves we will take her brother, but it doesn't look he's leaving any time soon. Court is in May, and the county is looking to terminate parental rights. While there are still many twists and turns to come, that'll be a pretty major step if it happens.
March was crazy busy with birthdays and vacations. Keragan's birthday was first (rainbow party) and Jia's Frozen birthday was the following week. I have great memories of my birthday parties growing up, and I want my kids to have the same great memories!
At the end of the month we went to South Carolina and visited the beach! It was Keragan's third time, but definitely the first time she really embraced it! She enjoyed the water and the sand did not want to leave. Jia also enjoyed the beach as it was her first time seeing the ocean. She was sick for some of the time but still had a great time. She's the best little sick girl you can imagine! She was a trooper!
Baby P didn't come with us, simply because he wouldn't remember it and it would have been difficult. He would've hated being stuck in the car for two full days and even on the beach we would've had to really watch him. Not to mention the non-babyproofed house!
So now we're counting down the days til school is out and trying to get caught up on house cleaning, organizing, scrapbooks, etc. Who knows what is just around the corner?!
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